A personal space to express myself in writing
Why is asking for help sometimes harder than doing everything yourself? A reflection on control, overwhelm, independence, and the strange habit of insisting “I’m fine” when I am very clearly not fine.
Everything feels scarier at night, when the silence leaves you alone with every fear, worry and thought you have tried to outrun. But perhaps the cruelty of night is that it convinces you the darkness is permanent, when there is still morning.
I miss when being bad at something was not a shameful experience. Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, we became so attached to competence that being a beginner started to feel embarrassing. What happened to simply trying something because it might be fun?
What happens when you lose parts of yourself in the name of survival? A reflection on finding yourself again, rediscovering your voice and learning to begin where you are.
Here are some key takeaways from the year 2020. Despite it being a tough year, there is always something we can learn
Start small, learn to crawl and master that then move on to standing, allow room for stumbling and falling, take it one step at a time, one day at a time, one week at a time.
Focus on one goal or project and build yourself a piece at a time. Do not be in such a hurry to juggle every project at once, else you drop them all.
Know that you are valued and needed.
“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”
― Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral\’s Kiss
“So how can I show up for myself today?” Is a question I recently started asking myself and being conscious of how I can show up for myself has been really helpful, so here are some of my tips.
Even if you say “life happens” or we are going with the flow, there needs to be a level of self-awareness in the flowing with the wind. I am all for flexibility in life but be aware of where you are bending and shifting towards and there should be a carriage of lessons and experiences as you go on in life.
Do not be so quick to knock 2020 off, you still have 4 months to make it your best year yet. 2020 can still be your ‘despite the odds’ years. Here are some lessons that I have learnt from this year so far.