ON BEING YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER/HYPE-MAN/HYPE-WOMAN

Hey guys, how are you doing today?

This morning i woke up late, but with an overwhelming need to pat myself on the back for no apparent reason, lie dude you woke up late what are you feeling good about? And well that got me thinking; “When last did you just randomly cheer yourself?” When last did you feel the need to hit pause and just sing your praises? To make yourself feel good ‘just because’?

Well I am here to tell you why you should cultivate this habit and how to do it! So sit back, grab a snack and enjoy TIPS ON HOW TO BE YOUR OWN HYPE-MAN/CHEERLEADER

WHY SHOULD I BE MY OWN CHEER-SQUAD?

CONFIDENCE BOOST – Being able to tell yourself “Guy! You are smart, beautiful and talented, I mean have you met yourself? Superstar, lady of the hour, the greatest of all time, you are an amazing CEO, a wonderful cook” and more is an amazing way to raise your confidence level. there is a pep to your step when you know you have something special, so knowing you are amazing and smart and talented is obviously going to make you walk with your head held high.

MAKES YOU A BETTER PERSON – When you continuously tell yourself you are something, you begin to act lie that thing and become that thing. If you spend time grooming yourself with words that say “you are a star, you are wonderful and epic and sky is your starting point” there is no way you won’t shine, because you have programmed your mind to now you are these things, irrespective of what the situation before you seems to be, you are epic. When you keep saying these things to yourself you realise you have no choice but to be great because you know you are great, you then begin to strive for greatness.

REDUCES YOUR NEED FOR APPROVAL – It feels good when others have nice things to say about us, when others feel and see how amazing and epic we are at our jobs and just generally as humans, but what happens when they don’t see it? Are you suddenly less amazing because others can’t see it? learning to sing your own praise and hype yourself does wonders for our need for approval as humans. Some people are genuinely surprised when you tell them they are amazing or complement their work, which is sad, because i feel at this point you should know you have value and you are not just random.

JUST BECAUSE – See, you must not have a reason to hype yourself, just make yourself fee good because you ca, cheer yourself on for no apparent reason. be proud of yourself just for being! NO ONE CAN CHEER YOU ON AS WELL AS YOU CAN! NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL AS GOOD AS YOU CAN! NO ONE SEES YOUR VALUE AND POTENTIALS, YOUR DREAMS AND AMBITIONS LIKE YOU DO! So do not be scared to be your won cheerleader.

HOW TO BE YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER

HAVE WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – these are words that express affection through praise and appreciation. This is basically you showing yourself some much deserved love. Stop waiting to achieve a goal or mile stone before you sing your praises. Each day before you step out of your house say positive words about yourself to yourself. SAY WHO YOU ARE, SO YOU HEAR IT, THINKING IT IS NOT ENOUGH.

PICK ONE GOOD THING EACH DAY TO PRAISE YOURSELF FOR – “you look good today” “you completed everything on your to do list today!” “you smiled a lot today” “you made a new friend today” anything goes, just find something positive daily to pat yourself on the back for, it could even be “yo! we made it to the end of the day”. This allows you reflect on the day you’ve had and also makes you feel good for the LITTLE THINGS OF LIFE.

FIND A FAULT AND MAKE IT GOOD – We all know life moves to its own beats, and things do not always work to plan, which can be demoralising and well that just makes us feel bad about ourselves, however I have been trying this thing where at the end of each day i find something that didn’t go well and use my mouth to fix it up, for example; Today my photo shoot was horrible’ can be changed to “Okay so ya, that shoot was horrid, however I was able to keep calm even when I wasn’t happy with what was going on, I was able to work well under pressure and now i know why the shoot didn’t work out great.” Do not always beat yourself up (after mins of flogging yourself), pick the beauty in the ashes. No matter how small.

TO WRAP IT A UP

We need to sing our praises even when we feel disappointed, or things seem to be working against us.

Stop focusing on the things you can’t do or have no control over.

Do not tie your self worth to you fulfilling your goals.

It is almost as though you are nothing without those targets and goals and the truth is. Those goals don’t make you, yes they feel good, they feel nice, but you must understand that anyone else can achieve those things, what really make those goals and targets worth anything is because of the You in them. They are special because you achieved them and not the other way around.

Stop waiting for others to validate you.

Stop waiting for the words of affirmation for your parents and friends, your spouse or mentor,  yes those words feel good to be heard, they make you feel better and good, but the words that really mean everything are the words of your mouth from your heart to yourself.

YOU ARE LOVED. YOU ARE SPECIAL. YOU ARE AMAZING. AND THE WORLD IS YOURS FOR THE TAKING.

STAY SHINING

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