\’WANTING TO BE SOMEONE ELSE IS A WASTE OF THE PERSON YOU ARE\’ – MARILYN MONROE
Ever so often I fall down the rabbit hole of comparison. I mean have you seen that person? Did you hear what those guys are doing now? We started together and I am all the way behind. These are a fraction of the thought that plaque my mind on such days. Days when it seems like I got dealt the wrong hand being me or in whatever ‘situation’ I might have found myself. And do not even get me started on social media being a pathfinder down this rabbit hole because these apps send us all into a frenzy – #goals #livingmybestlife.
Truth? there really is no point comparing yourself to others. Before you say it, yes obviously there is the role of healthy comparison; which provokes action and motivates you to do better; the; if-she-can-do-this-i-can-do-it-as-well-or-even-better type of comparison. But we know the main type that affects a large chunk of us is the; my-life-is-trash-and-i-want-to-be-someone-else-instead-of-building-myself type of comparison.
WATCH MY VIDEO ON COMPARISON HERE
So, besides the obvious here are four reasons you need to stop comparing yourself to others
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It prevents growth; when you spend all your time comparing yourself to others you become blind to your process. You get in one of two moods, either you become so hurried and look for shortcuts which we all know takes you absolutely nowhere, or we feel so bad about ourselves that we do nothing to make progress.
Comparison breeds desperation.
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It is very misleading; you are a terrible dancer, but because you keep comparing yourself to this particular dancer to the point of delusion. You start pouring your energy and resources into a venture that is not for you. \”If they made it with dance; perhaps dance is how you will make it\’
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Comparison makes you follow blindly; when we compare ourselves to specific people we tend to follow their steps without tailoring it out to fit your life specifically. We just do copy and paste, forgetting that no two lives, persons or circumstances are the same. obviously it won’t work the exact way. Stop being LAZY and put in the work to get the results you desire.
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It breeds jealousy/envy; This is how trolls are born. After comparing and wishing this was you or yours, you being to imagine how you deserve it better and well they say the rest is history. When you compare yourself to others you begin to feel jealous and even a sense of hate or bitterness towards them.
Ps. What makes you compare yourself to others?
How do you stop or reduce your need to compare?
PAUSE! Let’s be sincere for a moment, this is not a magic fix where you live happily ever after never to compare yourself to others again. No, sorry. This is a journey, a process you will definitely slip up on every once in a while and that is okay. The main goal is calling yourself to order when you see you are going down that rabbit hole…again.
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Accept who you are; You can not change what you do not acknowledge. Accepting yourself for who you are let\’s you know what areas of your life needs improvement, your strengths ad weaknesses. it prevents you from moving blindly; acceptance is the first stage of knowing who you are. I have a video where I went in depth on self acceptance HERE
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Do a social media detox; I can not begin to count how many times I have had a panic attack after scrolling through my Instagram feed, the voice that screams \”everyone is doing well, except you\” is a very dangerous one. Take breaks from social media, limit your time on the platform. I have set reminders to make sure my daily usage is a maximum of 1 hour 30 minutes and that has helped tremendously.
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Focus on your strength; When you compare yourself to others you do it as a mockery of your weaknesses. How about we switch things up a bit; FOCUS ON OUR STRENGTHS and SUCCESSES! Yes they seem to be living the life, but you are also living THE life! ‘You are doing well honey’. Comparing yourself to anyone is like comparing the fluidity of water and oil. exactly, they are two different classes of substances so no bases of comparison.
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Count your blessings; are you trying to tell me there is absolutely nothing beautiful about your life? there is nothing wonderful about your life? or that your life is not worth others wishing they had? Ya, I rest my case.
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Focus on your journey; Listen!!!!! Your path is different! You need to focus on yourself and your process, enjoy your journey, take what you can from others but make sure you are on your own path, do not try to live other people\’s lives.
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Be okay with your imperfections; YOU ARE NOT PERFECT! AND THAT IS OKAY! In-fact more than okay. Perfection is a myth. Have you ever wondered how boring the world would be if we were all perfect? The goal is not perfection, the goal is progress and growth.
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Turn the comparison into inspiration; Instead of looking at others and wishing upon a star, feeling sorry for yourself. Ask questions, learn from them, let them be a propelling force, a stepping stone to where you want to be. Be inspired and take actions, do not feel defeat at other people\’s success.
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Be your comparison matrix; The only person you need to be better than is the person you see in the mirror. I want to beat my records from yesterday. Compare your then to your now in other to put your future into perspective.
Comparison never pays, it leaves you feeling less than you actually are. Focusing on other people\’s progress or what they have, tends to take away from your power, you diminish yourself and that is not fair to you.
Be proud of yourself. Be proud of your successes and progress.
Focus on yourself and your growth.
You are AWESOME. You are GOALS. You are Amazing and Loved.
Keep being YOU.
STAY SHINING GUYS
Pps. What is your takeaway from this post? Love hearing from you guys