I had this topic written down for almost a year now. I refused to elaborate on it, because prior to today anything I wrote would have been hypocritical. It doesn’t make sense to tell others to jump off a ledge when I am still rooted to my knees on that very ledge. Or to say, take off your security blanket when mine is glued to my skin.

It is so easy to say, “just do it”, and in all fairness just doing it is “easy”, the difficult part is getting your body to do the biddings of your mind. If you are anything like me, then I fully understand the struggle; I would be standing so close to people and in my head the conversation goes like this “just say hi, or say you like their shoes, okay at least smile, see, they are not mean, someone just said hi to them and now they are best friends, oh well, it is too late, I will try again with the next person” and same thing applies to taking risks, there is a monologed dialogue (I know it is not a thing, but just go with it) in my head where I try to convince my body to do what my mind knows I can do.

Obviously there is that persistently rude voice trying to convince you that you are okay or tries to be the voice of ‘reason’ with its statements like; “I mean it’s not like you are struggling or anything” or “these things never work out” or “they look mean” or they will laugh at you if you try just stay” and on and on.

One lesson I have learnt recently is that you need to learn to ask, just try, big deal they say no, so what you failed, you move on. I used to feel like that statement “real failure is when you do not try” was a scam but trust me it isn’t. fine it stings to fail or to be rejected, but sometimes it comes as a blessing in disguise (I know, sounds so cliché but for real though). Because in 10 NOs you might get a Maybe that leads to a Maybe that leads to a No that will land you a Yes. Just try, because chances are even if the person at a time can’t be of help they might direct you to the source of help.

Do not be too comfortable in a routine or stage or moment or level, there is always more to do, there is always a next level and a greater height. There is always More. You have more to give, you have more to learn, you have more to do. Don’t say you are done till you are absolutely Done.

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