“But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light” – 1 Peter 2:9

I just realized, that some people will try so hard to mess your life up! Humans can be so inconsiderate and condescending. And so, you shouldn’t expect people to know how to treat you, do not go around saying “eh, do they not know that they are not supposed to?” or “are they not meant to?”.

We keep forgetting that the definition of normal is subjective! So, drop your expectations at the door and make it clear from the on set what works for you.

Do not be doormat or pushover; easy right? Nope, I know it is easier said than done, but what is the point of letting people ride over you and use you as they wish and then behind closed doors you are whining and angry?

The thing is, most times people know when they are overstepping, but if you don’t speak up for yourself then they take that as consent.

Do not let someone get comfortable disrespecting you.

Be a university, do not be afraid to state your requirements and stick to them! (yes, sometimes flexibility is allowed, but never at your detriment). You need to understand that no matter how high you place yourself, there will always be the selected “few” who will always be at par with you.

Do not reduce yourself because you feel no one will meet up, when you have substance, you attract the right people.

There is a difference between sacrifice and foolishness.

The line of separation between those two is how you see yourself. How you let people treat you reflects how you see yourself. If you know you are “better than this” then show it, let the words of your mouth backed up by actions demand more!

Learn to respect yourself, do not take yourself for granted. You set the bar on how people treat you.

You my darlings are AWESOME, WONDERFUL, UNIQUE, BLESSED, BEAUTIFUL, AND SMART.

So, do not play games with yourself. You deserve better, you can do better, do not settle.

CONFIDENCE IS NOT “THEY LIKE ME”, CONFIDENCE IS “I WILL BE OKAY OF THEY DO NOT” – CHRISTINA GRIMME

I love hearing from you, share your comments, let\’s discuss!!

Stay Shining!

Photographer: The Blackscribbler

Model: Naomi Alabi