We all face issues once in a while that spin us at an angle of 360 degrees far from the coordinates of our routines. Certain things that disorganize every bit of you. Those things that tear you apart. It hurts, it provokes you, and every other word you choose to use in qualifying the feeling it brings on you.I understand it will take time to heal up just like a physical wound or it will take time to get back on track just like recovering from a natural disaster.
But that doesn’t mean you should sit there sulking and make yourself the physical and practical definition of pity, sorrow and defeat. It is alright to cry, scream or do anything to relieve yourself of that feeling (positive things please) at that point. But I personally get disgusted when I see people act like they are the ones with the largest bit of all the negatives in the world. Feel your pain, but do not live in your pain because it will destroy you.
Feel your pain but do not live in it
Stop looking for someone to tell you sorry or pet you, you do not need it. If you fall down, get up, if you are hurt, treat yourself. If you break a limb find a way to fix it up and then find ways to do your things in a manner that wont cause you discomfort in your current state. Stop trying to feel so bad about every little thing that happened to you because there are others with far worse situations who have managed themselves well, so what excuse do you have?
Take note of what caused the incident or look for it if it isn’t obvious. Then find ways to prevent a second occurrence, that way you have learnt from it and then move on. Yes certain things are out if our control but still, just because you were brought into a circumstance doesn\’t mean you have to live in it.
No matter how devastating your story is, the only thing that makes you special is how you overcame, everyone can do devastating, but only few can overcome
I keep on asking myself what exactly people enjoy from looking so pathetic every time or telling the same old boring story of sympathy over and over again. Why not try something new? Why not make it a success story. Do you think that all the “doh”, “sorry” or “kpele” people have to offer will make you feel any better? It only makes you feel worse and more pathetic.
If you feel you need help getting through that phase, well that is okay but you must first help yourself by having the right mindset.
ALWAYS KNOW YOU CAN. KEEP FIGHTING. NEVER SETTLE FOR DEFEAT.